Some of it you agree on.
Let's talk about the rest.
Mediation is how two people settle what they can't settle alone — without handing the decision to a judge who has never met their children. In Utah it is often not optional: once a spouse files an answer, Utah Code § 81-4-403 requires you to attempt mediation before the case can go to trial. Whether it fits your situation depends entirely on your situation, so start by telling us about it.
divviMediate is $2,500 in total and includes up to 6 hours with a qualified mediator, plus the documents your agreement turns into.
Book a free 15-minute call →By phone, one-on-one. No cost, no sales pitch, and your spouse isn't told about it.
What mediation actually is
A neutral person sits between you and helps the two of you reach an agreement you both sign. They don't decide anything, they don't take a side, and they don't report to the court on who was more reasonable.
That is the whole of it. It is less formal than people expect and far less adversarial than a hearing — no testimony, no cross-examination, no ruling. Most couples who mediate never see the inside of a courtroom.
When it works, and when it doesn't
If you're in the right-hand column, say so on the call and we will tell you plainly that mediation isn't your next step — and point you at what is. We would rather lose the booking than put someone in a room they shouldn't be in.
How it works here
One-on-one, by phone. You tell us what's actually going on; we tell you honestly whether mediation fits. Your spouse isn't on this call and isn't told about it.
Thirty minutes on video with both of you, if you decide to go ahead. How the sessions run, what's decided in them, and what happens to what you say.
You work through the open questions with a neutral mediator. Nobody takes a side. Nothing is binding until you both agree to it in writing.
What the two of you settle on flows straight into your divorce paperwork. No retyping it into a second system, no second set of fees to write it down.
What the 15 minutes are for
You talk, we listen, and then we tell you what we think. That's it. There is no script, nothing to prepare, and nothing you have to decide at the end of it.
Useful things to have in your head: roughly what you disagree about, whether there are children, whether there's a house, and how the last conversation with your spouse went. If you don't know any of that yet, come anyway — that's a common place to be starting from.
Not sure it's for you?
That's exactly what the call is for. Fifteen minutes, and you'll know.
Book a free 15-minute call →divvi is a document preparation service, not a law firm, and a mediator is not your attorney. Nothing here is legal advice.
Frequently asked questions
What is divorce mediation?
A neutral person sits between you and helps the two of you reach an agreement you both sign. They don't decide anything, they don't take a side, and they don't report to the court on who was more reasonable. It is less formal than people expect and far less adversarial than a hearing — no testimony, no cross-examination, no ruling.
Do we need a mediator if we already agree on everything?
No. If the two of you genuinely agree on all of it — the house, the debts, the parenting schedule, support — there is nothing left to negotiate and a mediator is money you do not need to spend. What you still need is the paperwork: Utah requires a particular set of documents, filed in a particular order, plus a decree a judge will sign. divvi's uncontested divorce wizard is free and does that part. Mediation is for what you cannot agree on, and if that list is empty you can skip it. Two things are worth checking before you decide the list really is empty: whether you have each actually seen the other's income and account balances, and whether you have written down what happens to any retirement account. Those are the two places couples find a disagreement they did not know they had.
Can one mediator help both spouses in a Utah divorce?
Yes — one mediator working with both of you is what mediation is. A mediator is a neutral rather than anybody's lawyer: they do not represent either spouse, so there is no side to take and no conflict of interest in helping you both at once. That is the difference from hiring attorneys, where each of you retains someone whose job is to argue for one of you. One neutral, one conversation, one agreement you both sign. What a mediator cannot do is give either of you legal advice or tell you what a judge would decide — if you want that, you can have your own attorney read the agreement before you sign it, and mediating does not stop you.
Is a mediator a lawyer?
Not necessarily, and either way a mediator does not represent you. They are a neutral who helps the two of you reach your own agreement. They cannot give you legal advice and they will not tell you what a judge would do. If you want someone in your corner, that is a lawyer — and mediation does not stop you having one.
Do we have to be in the same room?
No. Sessions run on video, and the mediator can put you in separate rooms and carry proposals between you if being face to face isn't workable. Plenty of couples never see each other.
When is mediation the wrong choice?
When there has been abuse or you are afraid of your spouse, when one of you is hiding money, when one of you will not participate at all, or when there is an active protective order. Say so on the call and we will tell you plainly that mediation is not your next step, and point you at what is.
Is what we say in mediation private?
Largely, yes — Utah treats mediation communications as confidential, which is what lets people say what they actually think. Bring the specifics to the call and we will be precise about the limits.
Is mediation required in Utah?
In many contested Utah divorce cases the court requires the parties to attempt mediation before going to trial. Even when it isn't required, it is usually faster, cheaper, and less stressful than litigating.
How much does divorce mediation cost in Utah?
divviMediate is $2,500 in total, and that includes up to 6 hours with a qualified mediator — yours to spend how you want, up to 3 hours in a single booking. Pre-session preparation, the Premium Parenting Plan and divviReview are included in that price. If your case needs more than the included hours, the hourly rate for extra time is confirmed with you before you book it. The 15-minute intro call is free and commits you to nothing.
What happens after mediation?
The agreements you reach are written up and folded into your divorce or modification documents, which divvi generates for you — so mediation moves your case toward finalization rather than being a separate errand.
What if mediation doesn't work?
Then you have lost a few hours and learned exactly where you disagree, which is not nothing. Your documents and everything you have entered stay yours either way.